I would spend it by going on holiday, probably to the Italian lakes or somewhere like that.
We’ve had a very busy weekend, looking for a house to rent before Jr arrives. Fortunately the first house we saw we wanted, so the real business was involved in calculating whether we could actually afford it. Which we could so first thing on Monday Simon was in touch with the agents to say “Yes” if all the reference stuff goes through quickly we could move in this weekend.
Back with the baby news – the kicks are getting stronger if not yet uncomfy and I can feel them more often, they make me laugh sometimes, Jr must think that the world giggles on an interactive basis. My backache has disappeared, hopefully never to return. But the acid reflux has made a return normally just as I get into work and by the time I get home, I don’t think it is the hour’s drive that’s doing it just a co-incidence. Killing two birds with one stone, I’m drinking lots of milk to help neutralise the acid and keep my bones and teeth brimming with calcium.
Have you noticed that the pregnancy and baby magazines are mostly adverts surrounded by a little journalism, which is often just rehashing the latest release from the NHS or latest PR puffery from the baby food manufacturers. Simon, not having read many of these mags before was quite really struck with the lack of actual original writing.
One of the things the magazines recommend is to talk to your bump, I can’t I find myself feeling too unnatural and silly. I find myself thinking to the baby, but I doubt that counts. I can’t sing at it either, specially not nursery rhymes and there is no bloody way I’m going to listen to a nursery rhyme CD in the car during my commute. I value my time as an adult too much, so it may be we have to play tapes of Nicky Campbell, James Naughtie or Eddie Mair to the baby to get s/he to sleep, it is also very possible that Jr will start speaking with a Scottish accent.
Everything is tickity boo, so there isn’t that much to report, Simon came with me and he got to hear Junior’s heartbeat for the first time. I am still bang on for dates which is nice and there is nowt going on that is out of the ordinary.
However definitely of interest for anyone* who lives in Britain and is thinking of popping a sprog after the 6th April 09, is a new one off grant called the Health In Pregnancy Grant – it’s a one off payment of £190, not means tested, or taxable and there is much more information about it on the revenues website. Health In Pregnancy
*there are a few exceptions and exemptions with this but that is always the way of the world with benefits.
I had my 21 week scan today, I’ve not got a picture to show you I’m afraid, as Junior was being non co-operate and was most definitely not presenting his or her best side to the ultrasound. Because the baby was lying in an awkward position the ultrasound operator was not able to get all the measurements she wanted so I have to go back in 2 weeks time for another go at it.
The operator tried to get Jr to move into a more “photogenic” position, first she made me lie on my right side then on my left, finally she had me lie flat again. She raised the foot end of the bed I was on by about 10 degrees which did feel odd and even with all this maternal movement it still didn’t make the baby turn over though it did wiggle its head.
What she did measure was good.
The placenta has attached itself up high in my womb and Junior is on the button measurement wise for dates.
The cranial measurements were good.
The spine looked good too.
Junior seems to have the right number of limbs and the bones looked alright.
We saw the baby wave its arms about like a good un and the hands moves and the toes, Simon says basically my child was doing an impression of me and refusing to turn over when prodded.
The heart was beating but she couldn’t do all the measurements she wanted on it, as the spine was in the way. Because of the spine it wasn’t possible to do all the giblets and puddings measurements but we could see its little stomach which seems to be in the right place. She did a quick doppler on the kidney region we could see the renal vein (? I can’t remember if it a vein or an aorta) split into two.
She couldn’t get all the measurements she wanted on the face because of the baby’s position. But to us everything looked tickety boo.
We don’t know what sex Junior is yet because the way the legs were folded up over the vital area, so operator couldn’t get a good look at the feet which means we can’t rule out a club foot yet, and she said they like to get a measurement when the leg is stretched out.
I am a bit disappointed that we couldn’t be done and dusted with that scan but I am not worried because if she had seen something wrong she would have told us and they would have scheduled a repeat scan within a few days with an obstetrician in attendance, not wait two weeks to see how it goes. So I would all in all mostly good.
Finally I felt junior move and more than once, so it wasn’t wind. It is a most odd feeling, like being gently kneaded from the inside. I was beginning to think I was having a sloth, due to the lack of movement
I had my six monthly check up for my glaucoma today. I seem to be developing a strong aversion to the fields test machine they use at the hospital, the eye nurse did her best to be reassuring but I my stress levels rose as I was doing the test. It makes me feel claustrophobic and I find the beeps and whirling unsettling, which makes it harder to do the test which means it takes more time and so I have to listen to more bleeps and whirls and stick my head into a machine that makes me feel claustrophobic for longer and so it goes in an unvirtuous circle.
After the field test and a quick and dirty eye test I saw the consultant. I immediately had to fess up to have been bad about using my eye drops recently, erm like not actually have taken them for the last *cough* two and a half months. Anyway I didn’t get slapping from the consultant but after he checked the pressure in each eye he asked me how pregnant I was. Then he spent a while consulting his bumper big book of medicines which probably did not give him much assurance. He told me that as the pressure in each eye was just borderline high that it would be best to carry on without treatment for the moment and he would check the pressure again in about ten weeks time.
It’s good that the pressure in the eye seems to have dropped for now, because as far as I am aware there aren’t any recommended treatments for glaucoma that have been checked for side effects in pregnancy, that doesn’t mean that they are necessarily unsafe it’s just they do not have evidence to say that they are definitely safe, that’s because most glaucoma sufferers are far older than I am and there isn’t really a need for checking against pregnancy. The first consultant I saw back when my glaucoma was diagnosed told me this when I told him that we were hoping to start a family once we were married. Hopefully next time I will not have to stick my head into the fields machine. And the time after next Simon will have to look after Junior I don’t think he’ll complain too much unless he’s stuck in a meeting.
I didn’t forget to blog I’ve just been so busy that I’ve not had the energy to sit down and do it. We’ve been working hard to get my flat ready for the tenant who is moving in on Wednesday, clearing a long list of things off a to do list that kept on growing. I know that my extreme tiredness has passed as I would not have been able to do what I’ve managed over the past fortnight. Admittedly I have needed a daily afternoon nap until very recently and I have felt bone tired at work but my stamina seems to have returned even if I don’t feel particularly full of energy.
Other changes over the last two weeks I guess we can say that my tum is now the most sticky out thing about my profile even when I remember to pull my bum in and stand tall it’s time to admit that my boobs have lost their valiant fight to overshadow everything else. I’ve also found that I’m getting back ache in the very small of my back I think it could be sciatica I will have to ask the midwife next week.
I’ve still not felt Jr move, well a couple of times I could have sworn that I felt something but they were one offs and everything I’ve read says that once you’ve felt your baby move you always feel the movements. I’m not worried about it but I am beginning to feel a little disappointed. Mind you when I am sure that in a month’s time I’ll be wishing that Junior wouldn’t kick so much when I’m trying to sleep.
I’m getting better at getting people to do things for me that I can’t do myself like lifting and carrying. I’m polite but I’ve managed to stop sounding quite so pathetically grateful. I do feel it’s a bit of a let down that I can’t hoick things about like I used to, and it’s come on so suddenly as well but it is only temporary. The Next Spring Summer Catalogue arrived today, it is so heavy, yet a few months ago I wouldn’t have even noticed the weight. Next do have some nice maternity wear but I am still slightly underwhelmed at what is available. Considering that I was a goth and most of my wardrobe is still black or dark coloured I’ve fed up with the very limited palette of colours available to me. But even if the colours have all been a bit drab this winter at least I have a choice in maternity wear and don’t have to wear anything as awful as some of this stuff. It is easy to mock these dresses but in their haste to be “modest” they’ve confused the concept with ill fitting and look gargantuan rather than pregnant. I do not see why even roughly delineating the curves of the bump should be considered vulgar, but then again I don’t consider sex and the human body to be something dirty and to be hidden away.